Domestic violence WAYS TO AMELIORATING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMENINTRODUCTION”The United Nation defines violence against women as any act of gender based violence that results in or is likely to result in physical, sexual, or mental harm or suffering to women including threat of such acts, coercion or arbitrary deprivation of liberty, whether occurring in public or private life”. Ameliorating domestic violence against women us going to the collaboration of everyone, starting from the individual level, to the community, the religious setting and the government everyone has a role to play to solve this problem. . STEPS TO BE TAKEN TO AMELIORATE DOMESTIC VIOLENCEAlthough there is no clear cut solution to ameliorate domestic violence against women in Nigeria below are some ways it can be reduce:Sensitization at the individual levelRecognize your situation: individual who are facing domestic violence should admit to themselves that they are being abused and are in abusive relationship or marriage. Some women don’t even accept that they are in an abusive relationship, they feel when their husband abuses that it’s their fault and they must have done something wrong to deserve it. So it is very necessary victims to accept that they are in an abusive relationship. Victims to be made aware to know the signs of when they are in an abusive relationshipBreak the silence and speak up: women who are in an abusive relationship should learn to speak up and not keep quiet and continue until they probably lose the life. Its only when victims are able to speak up that they can be helped. When the society does not know that you are going through domestic violence they cannot help you. They need to be sensitize that they are laws that protects them against domestic violence.Sensitization at the community levelThe society domestic violence is not right or acceptable under any circumstance. We also need change the way viewed marriage the woman is always to balme for thev failure or the suucee of am marriage and so much pressure is place on her to ensure the success of her marriage that even when she is being abused in her marriage she does not want to leave or speak out so as to avoid stigmatization. Most men knowing that their wives would not want to leave the marriage so to be term a failure will use the opportunity to continue to abuse the woman. A man should not encourage that he is allowed to beat up his wife if she does something wrong. We should understand that ‘it takes two to tango’ especially in marriage.Sensitization at the Religious level”Many view divorcees with contempt, in religious circles, some believe that divorcees will not make heaven and should not aspire to any office in society or in religious settings, the circumstances of the divorce notwithstanding.” Christian should be made to understand domestic violence is anti-scriptural because Christ model for family is love for one another and love can never be displayed through domestic violence. We should not wait until people lose their lives before we take action. A Christian should be able to seek away from a marriage where there is threat of life Role of the Government to help curb domestic violenceImplementation of laws against domestic violence: On May 25th 2015 the Violence against Persons (Prohibition) act was signed into law to help curb violence. The police need to be proper trained to handle case of domestic violence. They should find way of empowering women to be economically independent. Firm punishment should be given to domestic violence offenders. There is need for institutional or organizational support to help women of domestic violenceRole of health promoters to help curb domestic violenceHealth promoters need to create more awareness on the evil of domestic violence on how it affects not only the woman but the children and even the society at large. Also more research needs to be carried out the causes of domestic in the society so as understand and find better ways to stop domestic violence. As health promoters our focus is on preventive measures and I feel we should focus more on finding out to prevent domestic violence from occurring at all. WAYS OF ASSISTING VICTIMS OF VIOLENCECounselingCounseling should be provided for victims of domestic violence to help them heal psychologically and emotionally. In the case of Dr Perputual ,Mbanefo she found out despite trying over and over again on her parents orders to make her marriage work, the psychological impact of the abuse meant that could no longer any king of intimacy with husband. Victims need help to be able to overcome the psychological impact of being abused. Creation of support group systemThere is need to create support group system to help victims of domestic violence. This can go a longer way to victims when they know they have people who can support them and they are not in this world even when their families sometimes choose not to support them. Just like the case of Mbanefo she did not have the support of her family but she was able to Hope house a small shelter for domestic violence. We need more across the whole of Nigeria to help more victims of domestic violence.Help victims to be economically independent.Victims who are not economically independent can be introduced into skills acquisition program such as tailoring, bead making, bag making, decoration, baking and others to help them acquire skills that will help them to economically independent. Soft loans can also be provided for them by the government to help them start up their business. This is important because most victims of domestic violence have no source income that why they remain in abusive marriages.Do not criticize them We should not criticize victim of domestic violence by telling them didn’t you see the warning signs. We should show care to them and understand that people who have been experiencing domestic violence have often been manipulated, broken down, berated and have their self-esteem crushed. They need to be shown love and care and know they are not blame.